Truth be told, it was a work colleague and friend that convinced me to take this step. She encouraged me to find more time for both myself and our marriage. It's easy to lose yourself in parenting. There's no doubt both the Hubs and I have lost sight of taking care of ourselves and our marriage in the past 2 years.
In the end, we decided to leave all 3 kids with the twin's nanny. Consciously I understand the twins spend a considerable amount of time with her during the work week. But for some reason it felt differently to think about leaving them at night. While it's hard to admit, and I recognize how irrational it was, I spent far too much time worrying about things like a fire or a burglar in the days leading up to the overnight. I know something catastrophic can happen during the day (e.g. a fire) just as easy as at night. My head just wasn't matching my heart on this one.
Thankfully everything went amazingly well. The Hubs and I had good old-fashioned adult fun (read: dinner, drinks and dancing) in the city with friends. Just having a break from changing 3 diapers was treat enough so everything else was icing on the cake. We woke up to enjoy breakfast in bed, and I sipped my coffee while reading the Sunday paper. A luxury that never happens at home.
Now that we've reached this milestone, we're looking at other ways to focus more on self-care. It's not easy carving out time for everything and everyone that needs to be taken care of in a day. Managing multiples is exhaustingly awesome. The Hubs and I need to remind each other and ourselves to recharge once in awhile.
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